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Should you ever lend money to a close friend, or does that put the friendship at risk?

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I think it depends entirely on the friendship and the sums involved. A small, well-meant loan rarely does any harm, but once the amounts grow, the imbalance can quietly take its toll and turn an equal friendship into something that feels lopsided.

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  • sticky — difficult, awkward, or hard to deal with“Lending money can get a bit sticky.”
  • drive a wedge between — to cause two people to become less close or to fall out“Don't let money drive a wedge between you.”
  • take its toll — to cause gradual harm or damage over time“The constant tension took its toll on their friendship.”
  • lopsided — unequal or unbalanced, with one side carrying more than the other“The friendship started to feel lopsided.”
  • souring — gradually spoiling a good relationship and making it unpleasant“Resentment was slowly souring their friendship.”
  • poisoning the well — to do something that permanently spoils a relationship or situation for the future“One bad loan can end up poisoning the well.”

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